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Posted on May 13, 2011Good Morning all and Happy Friday!
This has been an interesting week to say the least. Unfortunately, I was down because of a chest cold or whatever you want to call it, but I am feeling much better now, not that it really matters. So, on to the fun! I was thinking to myself this morning about life in general and the people that are in it and the influences they have on us and we on them and came to a conclusion that our emotions in our lives are our “Definition”.
The word “Definition” is defined (interesting play on words) as:
def·i·ni·tion [def-uh-nish-uhn] –noun
1. the act of defining or making definite, distinct, or clear.
2. the formal statement of the meaning or significance of a word, phrase, etc.
3. the condition of being definite, distinct, or clearly outlined.
I find this interesting because this goes hand-in-hand with what I want to say today. Our lives are defined by our emotions. Let me repeat that in case you missed it the first time… Our lives are defined by our emotions. When you look around at the world and the people in it, you see a varied degree of emotions. They are everything from joy, pain (sunshine & rain), sorrow, excitement, accomplishment, failure, etc… If you harbor these emotions, then you will be defined by that emotion. The last time you went to a store and met a person working there, more times than not, they were having a bad day. What made their day so bad? Was their boss riding them? Was their kid misbehaving before work? Are they having relationship issues? Are they late on their bills? For whatever reason it is, those elements have become their undoing by getting to them and feeling frustration, anger, resentment, etc… and then defining that person as such. If you let things slide off you and understand there is a greater meaning than all the BS, then you will define yourself as such. Happy, excited, fulfilled, motivated, optimistic… The good news is that we don’t have to worry about the people with the latter emotions. So how do we deal with this? We change our views and our emotions. Discard all the negative emotions that you have and fill them with positive ones. Is your boss riding you? Work harder to get a promotion or get a new job and get yourself out of a bad situation. Is your kid misbehaving? Pay attention to him/her, hell, give em a hug! I think the issues we have in this world are born out of hubris. Having relationship issues? Open up your mouth and talk, I am sure it was opened when argues ensued (see hubris). Late on your bills? Put more pride in your work, be happy, get a promotion or get a new job, don’t wallow in not having enough to make ends meet.
These may seem like overly simplified examples, but I am trying to make a point here, put aside all the bad in your life and look at your future and you can be better by just simple changes that will last a lifetime. It’s not much to ask of yourself for the benefit of your future. Hell, look at it this way, you could always end up with a remarkable job, fantastic kids and a lifetime relationship that all works in harmony…
Have a great weekend!
Stephen
Learning
Posted on May 06, 2011Good Morning All,
It’s been quite sometime since I have written, months actually and I wanted to share a view that I have that has been a recent revelation. First, let me tell you that I am writing today’s post from the road and currently not in Fabulous Las Vegas, but I drove to So Cal yesterday and during that 5 hour drive, I decided I would use that time for something to benefit me and help me grow as an individual. We all use to do it, but a lot of us have slacked off after we left school and that is “Learning”.
I recently started watching Stargate: Universe. Yes, I went there and whipped out a reference to Science Fiction (Or as the channel calls themselves now; SyFy). I tried watching Stargate years ago, but never really got into it. A friend of mine told me I should watch SGU and I did. I was pretty much instantly hooked on the show. I don’t know what it was about the way they wrote it setup the characters or the scenes, but I realized one thing when I started watching it. Somewhere in my life, I had no motivation and drive to continue learning. Yes, I have learned lots of things in my life, but truly geeky things I have passed on. One of the questions I ask myself now is how come we don’t travel to other galaxies? Why don’t we communicate with other civilizations (aka aliens)? So with all this excitement now rattling around in my head, I decided to do something about it and change my thought process to learning. During my 5 hour drive yesterday to Southern California, I decided I would take the easy way out at reading and listen to an audio book from Audible.com (Yes, shameless plug!). I have a subscription with them that I get 2 credits (pretty much 2 books) a month to download and keep. I had 4 credits available and downloaded 2 separate books (yes, audio) about Quantum Physics. Yep, I know it’s a bit heavy, but it allowed my brain to start firing off again and take action to grow.
So, Steve, what’s your point besides the fact that you like SyFy and Stargate? Well, the point is that I am excited to learn again albeit listening to a book, it’s still a way to dump information into my brain. I almost wrote this blog last evening because I couldn’t shut my brain down, but I guess there are worse things in life than having an active brain? If you get a chance, go out and pick up a book, a kindle or audible.com book and start getting your brain active. I think the point I am making here is that because we can put a man on the moon, why should we stop there? That was over 40 years ago! I think learning is going to be key for our society to really grow and evolve to the next level. It’s all about evolution and it has been since the Big Bang over 13 billion years ago, so get out there and start learning. If you don’t, you might find yourself extinct…
Have a great weekend all!
Stephen
Better Late Than Never
Posted on February 01, 2011Hello all on this wonderful Tuesday evening from Las Vegas, Nevada. It got quite cold here today being the 1st day of February and people are feeling it here. I know it’s nothing like what the North East of the US is getting, but it’s cold by our standards out here. I would say our Winter has been pretty mild so far and as we have just a handful of hours left before Chinese New Year (Year of the Rabbit), and we bid a farewell to my life compass and sign, the Tiger. The year of the Tiger was projected to have been a great year for me. It wasn’t for the first 10 months and the last 2 have made up for it and life has it’s little ironies and I say “Better Late Than Never”.
How many times have you watched a baseball game and sat at the edge of your seat at the bottom of the 9th inning as the Yankees pull from a five run deficit to win the game? How many times have you waited for information from a loved one to find out if it was a boy or girl? How many times were you ready to throw in the towel on dating right before the moment that your soulmate walked through the door? All of these scenarios are about faith and the fact that even in your “11th Hour”, everything works out the way it was meant to be. Patience is a virtue that is not common in society any longer and we have grown accustomed to fast food, fast latte’s, fast cars and let alone a myriad of other fast things. Keep your focus on what is going on in life and what is important. You may be rushing out of that Dunkin Donuts or Starbucks “too fast” and missed the opportunity to meet the love of your life.
What I am trying to say is this, don’t slow down to a screeching halt, but do try to realize that good things in life will come to you with the right amount of patience. If you look hard, be patient and diligent for whatever you are searching for, you will get it. Cars, houses, jobs, love… You name it, and it can be yours. Adjust your thinking, because you never know, that Aston Martin or Love of your life might be missed out on…Some people say better to have loved and lost, I say it wasn’t love yet… It’s “Better Late Than Never”.
Have a great week!
Stephen
Clouded Vision
Posted on January 14, 2011Good Morning All! It is Friday morning and I haven’t posted in months. I find keeping a blog up and running quite the daunting task to do. It sounds like it wouldn’t be hard, but writing unique content on a consistent basis is by any stretch of the imagination no easy task. Generally I find myself writing in either heightened pleasure or anger periods. So, writing today will hopefully help me and help you as I try to share a “Clouded Vision”.
Visionaries are not that common amongst society these days and are very hard to come by. Those that we still have forge through and try to make the world a better and more efficient place to live in. Visionaries from Christopher Columbus to Bill Gates have delivered many exciting discoveries and innovations to us. What I have realized recently is that these people are far greater people than make them out to be. The trials and tribulations that visionaries face are extreme and they perservere through the toughest of all odds. With that being said, we will start seeing less and less visionaries walk the Earth as the days progress because of the profound presence of ignorance in the world. As more resistance appears, the less visionary the world will be and send us into this pit reactive vs proactive.
Look around you and see what decisions you have made without really thinking it through and admit to yourself if you were wrong as well as the person(s) you affected in the process. Did you prevent yours or someone elses vision from becoming a reality? Did you not make the world a better place because of lack of understanding or ego? I can’t guarantee I will write on Monday, but I can tell you that sharing this observation with the world has made a difference to me.
Have a great weekend!
Stephen
Hymns
Posted on August 19, 2010Occupational Hymns
Dentist’s Hymn…………………..Crown Him with Many Crowns
Weatherman’s Hymn……………There Shall Be Showers of Blessings
Contractor’s Hymn………………The Church’s One Foundation
The Tailor’s Hymn……………….Holy, Holy, Holy
The Golfer’s Hymn………………There’s a Green Hill Far Away
The Politician’s Hymn…………..Standing on the Promises
Optometrist’s Hymn……………..Open My Eyes That I Might See
The IRS Agent’s Hymn………….I Surrender All
The Gossip’s Hymn………………Pass It On
The Electrician’s Hymn………….Send The Light
The Shopper’s Hymn…………….Sweet Bye and Bye
The Realtor’s Hymn………………I’ve Got a Mansion
Massage Therapists Hymn……. He Touched Me
The Doctor’s Hymn………………The Great Physician
Husband’s Hymn………………….Oh Why Not Tonight
AND for those who speed – a few hymns:
45mph………………..God Will Take Care of You
65mph………………..Nearer My God To Thee
85mph………………..This World Is Not My Home
95mph………………..Lord, I’m Coming Home
100mph…………….Precious Memories
Old School
Posted on August 18, 2010Hello all on this fantastic Wednesday. I actually am not writing this until Wednesday is almost over. It was a pretty full day for me, but I didn’t want to disappoint and really wanted to address this issue with fresh thoughts in my head. Yes, I must admit that I went to see Twilight Eclipse last night and for the record, yes it was a good movie despite my fight against seeing any of the Twilight movies until the past few weeks or so. Well, I think there are a lot of interesting points in the movie that I really want to address, but the one thing that truly comes to mind is being “Old School”.
If you watched the third movie of the series you will recall a dialog between Bella and Charlie (Bella’s Dad) about how Edward was “Old School”. People probably chucked during this time and related to Edward being 100+ years old and the fact they didn’t have sex. Well, I look at it in a different light and hopefully you will see my point of view on this. It’s sad that this type of romance and chivalry are not that prominent anymore. People in relationships and dating are more concerned about the quick romp in the sack than truly getting to know a person and love them for who they are on an emotional level than on the physical level. Days of men holding the door for a woman, offering a coat if she is cold and a romantic Foxtrot on the dance floor are slowly slipping away from our grasp. It shouldn’t be this way and whether you are dating or married, a relationship should have gender roles (I might get beat up for this), and a lady should always be treated as such; a lady.
What I am basically trying to say is not to take a vow of celibacy until marriage, but to respect and protect a woman in a relationship. The same goes for the woman too. But when I say the same, I mean show a man that twinkle in your eye and get giddy when he holds a door for you or takes your hand to get out of the car. Let’s go back to being a little more “Old School” like Edward and Bella and we might see a significant drop in breakups and divorces. One think a very wise and happily married man said to me one time about a relationship I was in was “never stop dating her”. Those are probably the most powerful words I have ever heard and I still keep them close to me for when I find the woman in my life, I will make sure I live and love by those words. Thanks Jason!
See you soon!
Stephen
Friends
Posted on August 18, 2010This is a good one for a few minutes of your time. Don’t let the time with your friends pass you by. Enjoy every moment of your life because they change as time goes by.
A group of 15 year old girlfriends discussed where they should meet for dinner. Finally, it was agreed upon that they should meet at the Dairy Queen next to the Ocean View restaurant because they only had $6.00 between them and Jimmy Johnson, that cute boy in Social Studies, lives on that street and they might see him and they can ride their bikes there.
10 years later, the group of 25 year old girlfriends discussed where they should meet for dinner. Finally, it was agreed upon that they should meet at the Ocean View restaurant because the beer was cheap, they had free snacks, the band was good, there was no cover and there were lots of cute guys.
10 years later, at 35 years of age, the group once again discussed where they should meet for dinner. Finally, it was agreed upon that they should meet at the Ocean View restaurant because the cosmos were good, it was right near the gym and if they go late enough, there wouldn’t be too many whiny little kids.
10 years later, at 45 years of age, the group once again discussed where they should meet for dinner. Finally, it was agreed upon that they should meet at the Ocean View restaurant because the martinis were big, and the waiters there had tight pants and nice buns.
10 years later, at 55 years of age, the group once again discussed where they should meet for dinner. Finally it was agreed they should meet at the Ocean View restaurant because the food there was reasonable, the wine list was good, they had windows that open in case of a hot flash, and fish is good for your cholesterol.
10 years later, at 65 years of age, the group once again discussed where they should meet for dinner. Finally it was agreed that they should meet at the Ocean View restaurant because lighting was good and they have an early bird special.
10 years later, at 75 years of age, the group once again discussed where they should meet for dinner. Finally it was agreed that they should meet at the Ocean View restaurant because food was not too spicy, the restaurant was handicapped accessible and they even had an elevator!
10 years later, at 85 years of age, the group once again discussed where they should meet for dinner. Finally it was agreed that they should meet at the Ocean View restaurant because they had never been there before.
It’s Worth It
Posted on August 17, 2010Good Morning all on this great day! It’s Tuesday and the week is well underway now. Hopefully your Monday was well and I was pinged yesterday why I didn’t post and I have no excuse. Well, in general, I don’t do excuses. I personally feel they are a cop out for accountability. I didn’t do it and I apologize, so now we move on to today’s post! Well, one thing I know is that there comes a time in our life where we have a crazy life and your friend’s can’t figure out who you are because of being so busy, but I can tell you that no matter what you do, in the long run, “It’s Worth It”.
What am I really talking about? Well, there comes a time when you have to set priorities on what you do in your life. Primarily, it’s about sacrifice. For example not doing an event or activity now because of what you are focusing on at the current moment is more key to you and your life than the short term goals of doing an event or activity. I see this in a lot of aspects of life and it applies to all facets of everyone’s activities. For example: work, family, relationship/dating, hobbies, etc… Generally I have seen there is no such thing as a proper balance in life and that one or more than one of these things will suffer if you focus on another activity. If your career is on fire, then dating/relationships will suffer and so may your hobbies. If you are totally into your love life, your career may suffer and not grow and will be on cruise control. Cruise control isn’t a bad thing, but not always the best option either.
What I am trying to say is here. If you are focusing on your work life and your hobbies, then of course you will not have time to date or commit time to a relationship and vice versa. I am not saying don’t do it, all I am saying is look at your future goals and make sure that “It’s Worth It”.
Thank you for coming by today and see you tomorrow!
Stephen
Summer Romance
Posted on August 17, 2010As I lay on my bed, thinking about you, I feel this strong urge to grab you and squeeze you, because I can’t forget last night. You came to me unexpectedly during the calm and balmy night, and what happened in my bed still leaves a tingling sensation in me.
You appeared from nowhere and shamelessly, without any reservations, you laid on my naked body… you sensed my indifference, so you applied your hungry mouth to me without any guilt or humiliation, and you drove me near crazy while you drained me. Finally, I drifted off to sleep.
Today when I awoke, you were gone, I searched for you but to no avail, only the sheets bore witness to last night’s events. My body still bears faint marks of your enthusiastic ravishing, making it all the more difficult to forget you.
Tonight, I will remain awake, waiting for you…
You fricking mosquito.
Fishing
Posted on August 13, 2010Good Morning all on this Fantastic Friday the 13th!!! OOOHHHHH…. I’m scared now! I didn’t realize it until I went to msn.com and they said it. I don’t know why people get all weirded out with superstitions, but to each their own I guess. Maybe on the contrary, today could be my lucky day? I could meet the woman of my dreams. I could win the lottery (nope, don’t play, so can’t win). I could goto heaven (after I get hit by a busload of nuns). Well, enough of that and I guess onto more serious matters. Do these jeans make me look fat? Do you think I have healthy skin? Do you think it’s sexy that my 2nd toe isn’t longer than my 1st toe? I think I’m “Fishing”.
So now that we got that out of the way, let’s talk about something that has always been a bit of a pet peeve of mine; fishing. No, I am not talking the go out to the lake with a small boat and rod and try to catch something in the water besides a boot. No, I am not talking about security risks that can happen on your computer (an that is phishing for the record). I am talking about the constant need for reassurance in something. When someone is constantly asking for positive reinforcement and feedback on certain things because of apparent insecurities. I am not saying that there is anyone that has zero insecurities, but what I am saying is something happened in this world where self confidence is at an all time low. Is it because of magazine covers like GQ and Vogue? Is it the pretty people we see on TV with the great tans? Is it the lack of experience people have with the world? Is it that your parents payed too much or not enough attention to you as a child and this is what is spawned? What the exact answer is, I am uncertain of, but I have noticed it has become a major epidemic!
The point I am trying to get across is this. If you dig for compliments, then the ones that come to you are going to be insincere and fake. Do you really want that? If you don’t give compliments out freely like the “flickers” that hand out the free porn pamphlets on the strip in Las Vegas, then are you just mean and heartless? I think that something has happened in the world where we have gotten a bit soft and feel the need to achieve NOT on our own, but always need help. Yes, I am here to try to help you along with some insightful words, but there may come a day when I am not here. What would you do then?
Have a great weekend all and see you on Monday!
Stephen
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